嚴苛的送養條件到底是好還是壞? - 貓

By Cara
at 2015-06-16T18:49
at 2015-06-16T18:49
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文有點長,抱歉~
貓咪的中途、送養人、認養人之間糾葛一直是貓版常出現的紛爭,
明明大多數人都是抱著愛動物的心態做這些事,
卻往往因彼此認知不同,讓好事最終無法美好收場。
會有這些感觸是因為這件事…
弟媳(老公的弟弟的老婆)養了十多年的狗狗去年底因衰老過世了,
狗狗是她十幾年前撿來的,她很愛牠,花了不少錢幫牠處理後事,
然後難過了好久。
直到今年過完年,她決定再養一隻寵物,
這次她選擇養貓,因為看到我和大姑家的貓覺得貓也是很棒的寵物。
她上網四處找尋送養資料,5月底終於看到一隻賓士貓覺得很有緣,
於是和送養人初步溝通並約好後,利用她老公難得的休假北上要帶貓。
和送養人見面後,發現雙方溝通不良,先是貓有病沒病說不清楚,
領養流程和養貓後續的見面聯繫更是沒有共識,
最後弄得不太開心貓也沒領養成,
然後她老公竟然就載她去魚中魚買了一隻兩萬多的蘇格蘭折耳貓…
上禮拜回婆家才知道這件事,她很開心的show照片影片給我看,
我雖沒表現出來,但其實很生氣,卻不知道要氣誰,
要氣沒好好溝通送養的送養人?
或是沒耐性陪她繼續找貓的弟媳老公?
還是沒有堅持自己立場的弟媳?
本來明明是要救一隻貓,最後卻是助長了繁殖場買了隻名牌貓…
加上前幾天也聽到朋友說本來想領養一隻貓,
因為送養人身家調查般的問題讓他覺得極不舒服,後來也不養了。
我知道畢竟大家素昧平生,要100%信任對方是有難度,
但…也不應該這麼難啊!
明明需要用心的是在於"如何"照顧貓貓這件事上,
卻總變成雙方人馬的心理攻防戰,
因為這樣而阻礙了貓咪的幸福,感覺有點嘔啊~
我們家的貓也是老貓了,為了心理準備,我有時也會看一些送養文,
坦白說像是定期要來家裡看貓這種條件我也無法接受,
可能是自己太內向,加上老公不想讓不熟的人進家裡…
我想哪天我也得認養一隻貓時,可能也很遇到很多困難吧~ 囧
說了這麼多,有點語無倫次也沒個結果,對不起大家~
也謝謝看到最後的朋友… (有人看嗎 XD
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我吃,我玩,我享受生活。 http://www.meipoke.com/
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貓咪的中途、送養人、認養人之間糾葛一直是貓版常出現的紛爭,
明明大多數人都是抱著愛動物的心態做這些事,
卻往往因彼此認知不同,讓好事最終無法美好收場。
會有這些感觸是因為這件事…
弟媳(老公的弟弟的老婆)養了十多年的狗狗去年底因衰老過世了,
狗狗是她十幾年前撿來的,她很愛牠,花了不少錢幫牠處理後事,
然後難過了好久。
直到今年過完年,她決定再養一隻寵物,
這次她選擇養貓,因為看到我和大姑家的貓覺得貓也是很棒的寵物。
她上網四處找尋送養資料,5月底終於看到一隻賓士貓覺得很有緣,
於是和送養人初步溝通並約好後,利用她老公難得的休假北上要帶貓。
和送養人見面後,發現雙方溝通不良,先是貓有病沒病說不清楚,
領養流程和養貓後續的見面聯繫更是沒有共識,
最後弄得不太開心貓也沒領養成,
然後她老公竟然就載她去魚中魚買了一隻兩萬多的蘇格蘭折耳貓…
上禮拜回婆家才知道這件事,她很開心的show照片影片給我看,
我雖沒表現出來,但其實很生氣,卻不知道要氣誰,
要氣沒好好溝通送養的送養人?
或是沒耐性陪她繼續找貓的弟媳老公?
還是沒有堅持自己立場的弟媳?
本來明明是要救一隻貓,最後卻是助長了繁殖場買了隻名牌貓…
加上前幾天也聽到朋友說本來想領養一隻貓,
因為送養人身家調查般的問題讓他覺得極不舒服,後來也不養了。
我知道畢竟大家素昧平生,要100%信任對方是有難度,
但…也不應該這麼難啊!
明明需要用心的是在於"如何"照顧貓貓這件事上,
卻總變成雙方人馬的心理攻防戰,
因為這樣而阻礙了貓咪的幸福,感覺有點嘔啊~
我們家的貓也是老貓了,為了心理準備,我有時也會看一些送養文,
坦白說像是定期要來家裡看貓這種條件我也無法接受,
可能是自己太內向,加上老公不想讓不熟的人進家裡…
我想哪天我也得認養一隻貓時,可能也很遇到很多困難吧~ 囧
說了這麼多,有點語無倫次也沒個結果,對不起大家~
也謝謝看到最後的朋友… (有人看嗎 XD
--
我吃,我玩,我享受生活。 http://www.meipoke.com/
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